Endometriosis divorce rate.
I have found limited information during my research on the specific divorce rate among couples where one partner has endometriosis. However, some studies suggest that endo can have a negative impact on relationships, mainly from a point of view of sexual desire and sexual function, which could potentially lead to a higher divorce rate.
When I looked at a study published in the Journal of Psychosomatic Obstetrics and Gynecology, I found that many women with endometriosis were more likely to report sexual dysfunction and lower sexual satisfaction than those without endo. Another study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy found that women with endometriosis seem to report more distress and lower relationship satisfaction than women without the condition.
Depending on the stage and type of endometriosis, the variety of endometriosis symptoms, and many other factors, it may or may not contribute to relationship problems and divorce. However, I am living proof that by being a supportive husband to my wife, we could manage endometriosis and maintain a very healthy relationship. And you can too!
What do I know about the endometriosis divorce rate?
Do I know anything about the endometriosis divorce rate and can it help to save your marriage?
Yes. I know about endometriosis rate divorce. Additionally, my wife asked me to divorce her on four separate occasions.
Each time I refused to gain a lot of experience and learned how to avoid it!
There are countless blogs on the subject of endometriosis from the perspective of the sufferer but it’s rare to see their male partner’s point of view.
This is where the problem begins because people usually find information about one side of the story. You need to know both.
Not knowing what your supporting partner feels makes women upset and angry because they think that their partner doesn’t care about them.
Sure, in some cases it may be true, however, the majority of us truly love our women. We just feel a bit lost and don’t know what to do.
Our instinct tells us to fix things. Even though we can’t fix endometriosis it’s in our nature to try.
This is an impossible task. Not being able to fix makes some guys feel useless and less of a man.
If you only know your partner’s pain it’s difficult to understand them. That leads to a lack of communication.
The lack of communication leads to arguments, and ultimately, to divorce.
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- What is adenomyosis and how is it related to endometriosis?
- Why do some women develop severe endo and others don’t?
- Does endometriosis cause infertility?
- How is endometriosis diagnosed?
- Do types and stages affect the treatment?
- Recurrence of endometriosis after excision surgery.
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Endometriosis and divorce rate.
Experts say that chronic illnesses increase the risk of divorce from the norm of 40-50% to as much as 75%.
Saying that amongst couples with endometriosis, the divorce rate raises because there are other issues that often occur, such as loss of sex life.
Based on my marriage I’ve learned two things:
- Men struggle to cope with new adjustments in their lives and leave their women.
- Women feel guilty for their partner’s loss and ask their husbands to leave them.
My wife and I belong to the latter. M sufferers from endometriosis and fibromyalgia. Both illnesses impact her mental health.
Why within a chronic illness like endometriosis divorce rate is higher than in other conditions?
Because affected women have a higher risk of being infertile, not to mention having painful sex.
Luckily for M, I didn’t mind not having kids. Sure, knowing that she will never have kids of her own was a traumatic experience.
However, my opinion on the matter made her feel less guilty as I had nothing to lose.
But the majority of men want kids, and not being sure if they will be able to have children makes them hesitant.
On its own, this is one of the biggest traumatic experiences they may encounter. Let’s add the lack of sex to it…
Pain during sexual intercourse can be unbearable for women who have endometriosis.
Women feel guilty every time they refuse sex. Their pain is too much to bear.
Male partners of women with endometriosis.
But no one talks about men who feel the loss. They are more likely to have an affair. That itself leads to betrayal and broken hearts.
But the impact of endometriosis on the couple’s sex life and a higher risk of infertility isn’t all married people have to deal with.
The emotional, mental, and psychological toll this chronic illness has on the couple is another reason for the higher endometriosis divorce rate.
Anxiety over the unknown future, depression caused by trauma, loss, guilt, and grief, are among the issues.
My lovely wife got an infection during recovery from laparoscopy. The original diagnostic surgery went very well but revealed stage 4 deep infiltrating endometriosis.
It causes my wife Irritable Bowel Syndrome since endometrial tissue reached her bowel. In addition to that, she developed various kinds of food intolerance.
She can’t eat dairy products, red meat, sugar, and most fruits, and she had to cut down on caffeine.
For an Italian woman like my wife not having her beloved coffee is a big deal. But let’s not forget these lovely kinds of food she can’t have…
Endometriosis made her diet extremely restricted and difficult to manage. Sure, it’s doable to bother that meals became repetitive and boring.
You wouldn’t think it affects a man but the truth is, we cannot go to a restaurant with our wives like we used to. The menu isn’t designed for women with endometriosis.
Also, going to a party with other people isn’t an option anymore.
Even friends don’t understand what we are going through.
We have to cancel some of our meetings because of the endometriosis flare-ups that unexpectedly occur.
Saving marriage from divorce amongst couples with endometriosis isn’t easy. Everything seems to work against the affected couple.
Even physically healthy relationships have problems.
But endometriosis can be a big deal if there is no communication and understanding between two people.
Loving a woman with endometriosis can be challenging, to begin with, but I’ve learned after 13 years how to manage our ups and downs.
One of the ways to help my wife with her endometriosis was to educate myself about her disabling condition. I found many books in my time, but one stood out the most. It was “Endometriosis – Healing from the Inside Out” which you can check and access below. This book dives deep into the whole topic of using a vast range of safe natural therapies and nutrition to help manage endometriosis.
Leaving aside the marriage as a whole, I’d like to tackle a separate matter – caregivers.
Because after all we, men, become caregivers to our beloved wives.
We hear so much about female endometriosis’s point of view. It’s time to talk about male partners who support them.
What is the impact of endometriosis on male partners of women with this condition?
There are plenty of awesome men like yourself who understand the importance of not giving up and they stick by their partners.
If you weren’t one of them you wouldn’t read this article. It means you care. Thank you!
There are support groups made of such men like us, under the concept of “Mendo,” men who love women with endometriosis.
I’m a man who loves his wife. I don’t belong to such groups because I decided to create and dedicate my entire blog to the topic of men supporting their chronically ill partners.
Endometriosis has been shown to negatively impact women’s quality of life, but really little is known about the impact on male partners.
Endometriosis significantly impacts negatively the emotional well-being of men.
Men report that endometriosis affects many aspects of their lives including sex and intimacy, planning for having children, work, and therefore income.
They are required to take on additional tasks and roles.
My wife takes good care of herself and there are no flare-ups, her endometriosis doesn’t affect me much.
She tries not to put pressure on me, but sometimes it isn’t possible. Especially when the illness causes extreme stress, anxiety, and depression.
I become her nurse, her cook, shopper, cleaner, advocate, breadwinner, and more…
Endometriosis has an impact on men’s emotions. I felt helpless, frustrated, worried, and angry at times.
Despite endometriosis having an impact on male partners, there is a lack of support available to men. We are often marginalized and forgotten.
Healthcare practitioners should take more care of couples as a whole because they usually focus on females only.
Endometriosis has a negative effect on the sexual function of women and the strain on intimate relationships is really big.
This, in some cases, contributes to relationship breakdown therefore there is a higher endometriosis divorce rate than among couples without this condition.
Sex with endometriosis!
Endometriosis often affects sexual function and causes pain during intercourse, which can impact sexual activity and intimacy for the women who are affected. The severity of endometriosis symptoms can vary from woman to woman, and not everyone with endometriosis will experience sexual difficulties.
But when they do, pain during intercourse (also known as dyspareunia), can be caused by the physical presence of endometrial tissue outside of the uterus, as well as inflammation and nerve sensitivity in the surrounding tissues. The location can vary from person to person depending on the type and stage of endometriosis.
Endometrial tissue can also impact sexual function, as it can affect the positioning of organs and the ability to move comfortably during intercourse.
So, my advice would be, if your partner experiences pain during intercourse due to endometriosis, there are several options for managing her symptoms. These include:
- Using pain relief medication such as nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs) or muscle relaxants
- Engaging in sexual activities that do not cause pain, such as non-penetrative sexual activity or using different positions
- Using lubrication or vaginal dilators to ease discomfort
- Seeking medical treatment for endometriosis, such as hormone therapy or surgery, can help reduce the size and severity of endometrial tissue growth and associated symptoms.
Remember to talk to the BSGE endometriosis specialist if she experiences pain or other sexual difficulties related to endo. The doctor can help your partner develop a treatment plan that is tailored to her needs and symptoms.
In addition, seeking counseling or support from a mental health professional can be helpful in managing the emotional impact of endometriosis on sexual function and intimacy.
Sadly, some women’s endometriosis pain can make physical intimacy unbearable to the point it even breaks up marriages. That is because endometriosis can affect a small space behind the cervix and lower uterus. When endometriosis gets into that space, it widens it causing extreme pain.
It also causes nerve endings to grow and the tissues to get inflamed. The tissue around the area becomes stiff. If that area is hit during intercourse, pain can be really excruciating!
And can also last for days, because nerves become irritated to the point that they keep firing over and over, sending impulses to the brain.
Apart from the nerves, endometriosis also causes fluids to leak from the tissues, which results in spreading, causing inflammation in the pelvic area. The female reproductive organ is supposed to be elastic. But endometriosis causes stiffness and pulls on other structures in the pelvis, which can a woman very uncomfortable.
So, after fertility issues, sexless life is one of the primary reasons for couples with endometriosis, and divorce rates are high.
Sex isn’t only about penetration. Sex is wonderful because you can explore and experiment. By searching and discovering new things, your sex life doesn’t have to be boring. I say that because (unfortunately) for the majority of men sex is about the finish and release.
Women prefer more time, preparation, a more intimate touch, and emotional support. For them, it isn’t about the penetration but the experience as a whole, especially when she has chronic pain.
Some useful tips…
Here are 10 tips that can help keep your intimate relationship healthy:
- Get proper medical treatment.
- Don’t put your relationship on hold.
- Talk it over.
- If something hurts, stop doing it.
- Try new things.
- Wait until you’re ready.
- Change positions.
- Let your body do the talking.
- Keep working at it even after surgery.
- If you need more help, find it.
Additionally, I give you 15 caregiving tips on how to support a partner with a chronic illness:
- Find support.
- Get help.
- Make time for yourself.
- Be kind to yourself.
- Identify personal barriers.
- Try to be patient.
- Don’t stop learning.
- Remember your loved one.
- Approach caregiving with your heart.
- Be respectful.
- Be sensitive.
- Trust in your ability to be a caregiver.
- Know your limits.
- Try not to be judgemental.
I hope you found here useful information about the endometriosis divorce rate and how to save your marriage from divorce…
I wish you both luck and cross my fingers for you.
Take good care of yourselves!
Hi, I’m Lucjan! The reason why I decided to create this blog was my beautiful wife, who experienced a lot of pain in life, but also the lack of information about endometriosis and fibromyalgia for men…